About Sleeping

About Sleeping

Three Companions [may Allah bless them] came one day to the wives of the Prophet ‏to question them about his private life by saying, “How did the Prophet live? As they recounted elements of his private life, one of them said, “As for me, I do not marry women” (Pretending to observe celibacy). The second said, “As for me, I pray and I do not sleep,” and the third said, “As for me, I fast and I do not eat . ”

Having read their words, the Prophet praised Allāh, praised Him, and said, “I know Allah better than you, I fear him more than you, but at night I pray and sleep, day, I fast and eat, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my tradition (Sunnah) is not mine.

Regarding sleep, since this is the subject that concerns us in this article, it is obvious that the human body needs it to relax. There is no point in wanting to deprive oneself of it all the time and claiming to get closer to Allah just by means of fatigue, especially if one is not used to it, the capacity or the exceptional gift. Too too much to pull on the rope, we risk just exhausted, without more benefit.

Great Masters such as Imam al-Ghazali and ‘Abd al-Qadir al-Jilani [may Allah be merciful to them] counseled the aspirants/disciples to sleep eight hours in twenty-four hours. On the other hand, for more efficiency, it may be wise to divide this time. Imam al-Ghazali said, “Know that night and a day are twenty-four hours. Do not sleep more than eight hours, because if you are sixty, that is enough to make you lose twenty, or one-third.

Recently, while advising people who have difficulty getting up for the Subh prayer, Sheykh Muhammad al-Yaqou’bi said, “Usually, you should not sleep continuously for more than 4 or 5 hours. So, if you go to bed (at 11 am maximum), then you should get up at 4 am without the help of anyone. If you sleep 7 or 8 hours in a row without getting up then there is something wrong with you. Sleep 3, 4, 5 hours, wake up, pray 2 rakaat and go to sleep again if you must, but do not sleep continuously. This should help you in the Subh prayer. If you wake up an hour or two before Subh, read Quran or do Dhikr, it will be considered as night worship, which is very profitable. ”

When I Wanted To Marry

When I Wanted To Marry

Married is one of the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam. For young people who have been able to get married, the Prophet Muhammad was ordered to get married soon. Likewise for parents who have a daughter, if there is someone who has a good religion who wants to marry his daughter then it is advisable to accept the proposal.
Then what about me? I had a desire to get married at the age of 25 years. Qodarullah my wish is not achieved. Because my condition was not established at that time, so my parents did not give my blessing. Finally, I decided I would not discuss marriage until I was really ready. If someone offered me a woman to marry then I refused.

One day I worked in one city. A few months working there I was convicted of gallstone disease, the doctor advised me to take the gallstones surgery. After undergoing surgery I rested at home for a while to recover from the condition. On that occasion, it crossed my mind to get married. While the time was still loose during the recovery period and has not returned to work. If I have returned to work later, I would be busy with work again.

I conveyed my desire to get married to my friend. I said if I want to get married, I asked him for help if there is an acquaintance of a woman whom I have never known before and matches with me so I would marry her. I didn’t want to if I have known the woman before. I also conveyed this to my other friends. Then there were some friends began to offer me women who were ready for marriage. A friend offered me a widow with a child, I didn’t want to, because I wanted a girl. There are also those who offer me women older than me, I also didn’t want to, I wanted women who are younger than me. There was another who offered me a woman whose house was far away, across the island. I didn’t want to, I felt sorry for my parents if they have a distant daughter-in-law. Then my first friend gave me the biodata of a girl, incidentally, at that time, I played at my friend’s house. I read the girl’s biodata, it was very interesting, but when I arrived at the latest writing about her activities, I backed away. I did not want to marry an activist woman, because I was worried that with her busy life it will reduce family time. The criterion of the woman I wanted was a girl, younger than me, her house was not too far from my parents’ house, not richer than me, and of course a godly woman. Then which woman did I marry?