About Sleeping

About Sleeping

Three Companions [may Allah bless them] came one day to the wives of the Prophet ‏to question them about his private life by saying, “How did the Prophet live? As they recounted elements of his private life, one of them said, “As for me, I do not marry women” (Pretending to observe celibacy). The second said, “As for me, I pray and I do not sleep,” and the third said, “As for me, I fast and I do not eat . ”

Having read their words, the Prophet praised Allāh, praised Him, and said, “I know Allah better than you, I fear him more than you, but at night I pray and sleep, day, I fast and eat, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my tradition (Sunnah) is not mine.

Regarding sleep, since this is the subject that concerns us in this article, it is obvious that the human body needs it to relax. There is no point in wanting to deprive oneself of it all the time and claiming to get closer to Allah just by means of fatigue, especially if one is not used to it, the capacity or the exceptional gift. Too too much to pull on the rope, we risk just exhausted, without more benefit.

Great Masters such as Imam al-Ghazali and ‘Abd al-Qadir al-Jilani [may Allah be merciful to them] counseled the aspirants/disciples to sleep eight hours in twenty-four hours. On the other hand, for more efficiency, it may be wise to divide this time. Imam al-Ghazali said, “Know that night and a day are twenty-four hours. Do not sleep more than eight hours, because if you are sixty, that is enough to make you lose twenty, or one-third.

Recently, while advising people who have difficulty getting up for the Subh prayer, Sheykh Muhammad al-Yaqou’bi said, “Usually, you should not sleep continuously for more than 4 or 5 hours. So, if you go to bed (at 11 am maximum), then you should get up at 4 am without the help of anyone. If you sleep 7 or 8 hours in a row without getting up then there is something wrong with you. Sleep 3, 4, 5 hours, wake up, pray 2 rakaat and go to sleep again if you must, but do not sleep continuously. This should help you in the Subh prayer. If you wake up an hour or two before Subh, read Quran or do Dhikr, it will be considered as night worship, which is very profitable. ”

Ways to Fight Arrogant

Ways to Fight Arrogant

Arrogant is a very dangerous disease. This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it. In a hadith, the Prophet Muhammad said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it was as big as dzarrah. Then there was someone who said that there are actually people who like to wear good clothes or good sandals. So the Prophet Muhammad said that Allah is Most Beautiful and likes beauty. Arrogant rejects the truth and humiliates humans. So the essence of arrogance is that when someone does not accept the truth that is conveyed to him and he demeans others, he feels better than others.

There are many ways to fight this arrogant, including:
1. All the strengths we have must be grateful for.
God has given us so much pleasure, if we want to calculate it we will not be able to. Among the blessings that Allah has given us are many possessions, good descendants, extensive knowledge and understanding, many skills, complete limbs and much more. When we see other people who are poorer than us, or there are people who lack intelligence, or there are people who have other disadvantages, this should make us grateful, it turns out we have certain advantages compared to others.
2. We must be aware that people like us are many, even more than us are very many.
When we feel smart in one science, then try to pay attention in other regions or other countries, it turns out we will find people who are smarter than us, maybe even more than one person. So we don’t need to feel arrogant with the knowledge we have. When we give charity to help build mosques in our village, we may nominally be the biggest alms among people who participate in charity. But let’s look at other areas, maybe there are people who are more alms than our charity. So do we deserve to be arrogant? We buy a new car. Then arrogance begins to appear in our hearts when we saw our neighbor’s old car. But if we notice that in other areas there are also people who have cars like the one we buy, even the cars are better than oursLikewise, with other things, many people have advantages over us, and we have to admit it.
3. Always remember that the reward for arrogant people is to be put into hell.
God threatens those who are proud of hell: “Enter the gates of Hell, while you dwell therein. Then Jahannam is the worst place for those who boast. “(Az-Zumar: 72)
So when arrogant begins to appear in us, remember the threat of God to those who are arrogant, that is, they will be put into the hell.

That’s among the arrogant fighting methods, hopefully useful. And we pray to God so that we are kept away from this arrogant.

Arrogant

Arrogant

Arrogant is one of dangerous heart disease. This disease afflicted the devil so that the devil did not want to bow down to Adam. This disease also afflicted Abu Jahal and Abu Lahab so they refused to accept the invitation of the Prophet Muhammad to convert to Islam. When God commanded the angels and the devil to prostrate to Adam, the devil refused and was arrogant. Devil did not want to bow down on the grounds that the devil felt better than Adam, the devil was created from the fire while Adam was created from the ground. Though there was no statement from God that fire is better than the ground.

Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam reminded us of the dangers of the arrogant disease. He said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it is as big as “dzarrah”. Dzarrah is a very small object. Among the explanations regarding dzarrah are small ants, mustard seeds, small dust that appears when there is light entering the room. So if there is little arrogant in our hearts, then we are threatened not to go to heaven. This arrogant disease is so dangerous that those who have arrogant diseases God will enter him into Jahannam (hell).

This arrogance can be caused by world affairs or religious affairs. People can be arrogant because of their wealth, or because of the position they have, or because of the clothes they wear, or because of their descent, or something else. For example, when we go to the mosque by car, at first there is no sense of arrogance in our hearts, then when we arrive at the mosque and we become the center of attention of the pilgrims, we begin to grow arrogant in our hearts. Or when we go to the mosque wearing good clothes, at first we don’t feel arrogant, but because we are the center of attention, this arrogant disease finally arises. So this arrogant disease is very easy to appear on us, especially when we become the center of attention of many people. The Prophet Muhammad advised us that if we are able to dress luxuriously but we prefer to dress modestly then in heaven we will be given good clothes by Allah.

This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it, and there are many facilities leading to arrogance. Besides, because the world affairs as explained before, arrogant can also arise because of religious affairs. When we have memorized al Quran a lot, arrogance begins to appear in our hearts because seeing other people memorize it a little. With the knowledge of religion that we take and for more people to ask us about religion, arrogant arises in our hearts. If arrogant already understand us then we start doing what we say or what we do is really true. There are other people who advise us not to accept. This arrogant can be seen from our words, from the way we walk and others. Allah said which means: “And do not turn your face away from humans (because of arrogance) and do not walk on the earth arrogantly. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are arrogant and pride themselves. (Q. Luqman: 18)
The Prophet Muhammad said when he explained about arrogant, arrogant is rejecting the truth and demeaning humans. Hopefully, we will avoid this arrogant disease.

Between Revelations/Proposition And Intellect

Between Revelations/Proposition And Intellect

Islam is very concerned with human reason. In many verses Allah often ends His verse with a sentence, do you not know, do you not think, do you not contemplate, do you not take lessons and so on. So Islam invites us to always think and use our intellect to carry out Islamic law. But sometimes there is a Shari’a which seems unreasonable if this is the case then which one takes precedence?

There is a story in the Qur’an when Allah finished creating Adam, then Allah ordered the angels to prostrate to Adam, but the devil refused and was arrogant. When asked why the devil did not want to bow down, he replied because he felt better than Adam. He thinks he was better than Adam because he was created by God from fire while Adam was created by God from the land. Even though there was no explanation that fire is better than land. But the devil uses his intellect to fight God’s commands.

The next story is about Isra ‘and mi’raj prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam. A very famous story of how in one night the Prophet Muhammad traveled from the Holy Mosque in Mecca to the Aqsa Mosque in Palestine, then proceeded up to the seventh heaven to receive the revelation of prayer from Allah, then went down again and returned to Mecca. The incident lasted only one night. We will definitely say the incident was an impossible thing, it makes no sense. Abu Jahal, a high ranking official of the Quraish, when he heard this story laughed at the Prophet Muhammad because according to him the incident was impossible. Abu Jahal then told the Prophet Muhammad to tell the incident to the Quraysh community. Most of them said the incident did not make sense, even some Muslims said so. But when the incident was told to Abu Bakr, he then said, even if there was a more impossible event experienced by the Prophet Muhammad he would believe it. Such was the faith of Abu Bakr. He prioritizes Allah and the Prophet Muhammad rather than his intellect. So where is our position? Follow Abu Jahal or Abu Bakr?

Even in Islamic Sharia, there are some things that don’t make sense. For example, when we pray then fart, then our prayer is canceled. All we have to do is perform ablution. If we follow reason, of course, what should be washed is the part that emits wind, in fact, all members of ablutions that are washed. Another example, a woman who experiences menstruation when fasting for Ramadan, she has the obligation to change her fast at a later time. But it was not ordered to replace the prayer, even though the position of prayer was more important than fasting. But that is the Shari’a, the basis is revelation/proposition, not intellect. So as a Muslim when we are ruled by Allah and the Prophet Muhammad, what we do is we listen and we obey. There is no need to think about what are the benefits behind the order. Likewise, when we are prohibited from doing something, we stay away without our need to find out the danger from the prohibition.

My Child Was Born Prematurely

My Child Was Born Prematurely

The child is an investment in the hereafter, then the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam ordered us to multiple children. If we have many godly children, there are certainly many who will pray for us. But children also become a test for parents. How many parents are willing to sacrifice anything for their children, parents sacrifice their wealth, time, energy and everything so that their children are happy. Even there are parents who justify any means for the happiness of their children.

My first child was born prematurely through a cesarean section. This operation was performed after the condition of the baby in the womb has deteriorated. When my wife entered the hospital the baby’s heart rate was very fast, after a few days her heart rate weakened, even below normal. Then the cesarean section was a solution so that the baby was more easily monitored by her health than still in the womb. The womb age of my wife during a cesarean section was only seven months. The baby’s weight was 19 ounces. The baby was very small, so my wife and I were very worried about her condition. Because the baby’s weight was below normal, she was placed in an incubator. Initially the baby was not able to drink breast milk, after all, my wife’s breast milk was not smooth, so at first, the baby was given formula milk. Three days after birth, my wife was allowed to go home, but the baby was still being treated in an incubator. We were sad that we could not accompany the baby all the time. We could only visit our baby at certain times. We stayed at my aunt’s house because my aunt’s house was close to the hospital, so we could visit our baby at any time in the hospital. Our baby was treated in an incubator at the hospital for seven days. After seven days of treatment, our baby may be taken home provided that our baby was made an incubator at home. Then I asked my neighbor who was a carpenter to make a simple incubator, the important thing could be used to warm my baby.

After being treated for seven days in the hospital, our baby may be taken home. At first, we asked for help from the midwife to bathe our baby, after I felt my wife could do it herself, she bathed our baby. Every morning we were required to warm our babies in the sun. All my baby clothes were removed so that her whole body could be exposed to the sun. The doctor said so that our baby would not get jaundice. We were very lucky because our house was close to the midwife, so she could help us if needed.

Oh yes, when my baby was born my parents were performing the Hajj. We deliberately did not inform them not to disturb their concentration in carrying out the Hajj. We made a surprise for my parents. And when they came home from the Hajj, we welcomed them and told them that our baby was born. They were surprised and happy to see our baby. But there was also a little worry because our baby was very small.

Our advice to you who also have a premature baby, monitor the condition of your baby diligently, because premature babies sometimes have a condition that is lacking. For example our baby, it turns out there is a slight problem with her hearing. We only found out when our baby had grown up. So pay attention to your child’s condition well. Hopefully, our family is always healthy. Amen.

When I Got Married

When I Got Married

Getting married is a means to legalize the relationship between a man and a woman. A man is forbidden from having a relationship with a woman who is not a mahram without a clear reason. In one verse, Allah forbids us from approaching adultery, because adultery is a very bad act. Approaching adultery alone should not let alone commit adultery, certainly more prohibited. The Prophet Muhammad also reminded us of approaching this adultery. He forbade a man to be alone with a woman who is not a mahram because surely Satan will tempt to do things that are forbidden. By marrying a man and woman’s relationship becomes lawful. After marriage men and women become mahram, they are free together everywhere, except to places that are forbidden, of course.

As I told you before, I got married on Sunday 12 April. Within a month or so of the first time I met the girl, I decided to marry her. Without dating and not much communication, let alone meet her. From the first acquaintance to before marriage I only met the girl twice, those were when I was acquainted and when I applied. I got married at the girl’s parents’ new home, a house that had just been built, a house that had never been occupied before. The wedding program was very simple. I went to the wedding venue with my family group on Sunday morning from home. There were my parents, my sisters and other families. The distance between my parents ‘house and the girl’s parents’ house was about 100 km. There was an event that was not heartening when traveling. I chose the wrong road, got into a dead end, was forced to turn back to the original road. Understandably, I haven’t memorized the way to the girl’s house. Finally, I arrived at the girl’s parents’ new home. A small, simple house, so it cannot accommodate a large number of guests present. The solemnization of marriage (ijab kabul) went smoothly, thank God. It was at the time of the blessing that I really saw what the girl was like, beautiful, masyaaAllah.

Sunday, April 12, at around 10 am, I officially became a husband. The dowry was a book, as the request of the girl. Alhamdulillah. The program was over, my family’s group had returned home, but many guests were still present until late in the afternoon. After delivering my family’s entourage, I returned to my new family. It felt strange, awkward, confused. Because only a few people I knew. Even with my own wife. The foreign woman who is now my wife. The moment of the first night I was still awkward, sleeping with her. I couldn’t sleep until morning. Then what did I do with my wife? We just chat, got to know each other. That was all. Really didn’t know what to do.
How about your first night?

Get to know Genie

Get to know Genie

In this life, we often hear about the genie. About genie’s existence, there are people who believe that genie exists, there are also people who don’t believe it. Believers believe in genie’s existence. Even people who believe genie’s existence some of them cult genie or worships genie. Then, how does Islam look at genie’s existence?

Allah says in one of the verses, which means: “And We have created a genie before (Adam) from a very hot fire.” (Al Hijr 27). And also His word which means “And We have created the genie from the flame.” (Ar Rahman 15)
In the Qur’an it is narrated that Prophet Sulayman had enormous power, his people were from genies and humans. When he wanted to move the queen’s throne Bilqis there was a genie who was willing. But the prophet Sulayman preferred the godly man because the ability of the genie was still inferior to the abilities of the godly man.

In a hadith narrated when Abu Hurairah was in charge of guarding the food warehouse, there was a thief who took food. The thief was captured by Abu Hurairah. But was released again by Abu Hurairah because he was sorry for the thief. The incident repeated up to 3 times. On the third occasion, Abu Hurairah did not release him. But finally released also after the thief taught Abu Hurairah a very useful practice. When this incident was told to the prophet Muhammad, he said that the thief was actually a genie.

In everyday life, we often hear stories about people who met a genie. Genie lives in a different world from humans. One of their advantages is that they can see humans, but humans cannot see genies, only certain people can see genie. Most genies have the ability to change their form and appear in front of humans. Sometimes we hear about the appearance of a genie who is like a giant, there are certain susceptible animals and so on. This genie is also like a human, there is life there is death, there are anger and hostility, there is a call for prosperity and evil, and so on. They also eat, drink, get married, have children, have fears like humans.

The similarity of genie and humans is all that God created that was created to worship Him. Speaking the word of God which means: ” And not we create genie and humans except only worship Me “. (Adz Dzariyat: 56)
Genies will enter heaven if they believe in Allah and His Messenger, and they will go to hell if they do not believe. While the evil genies, they will invite humans for evil, interfere good humans by entering into the human body so that humans become crazy or sick, or by scaring humans. For this, the Prophet Muhammad has asked us to read readings for fortification from monitoring Genie, such as ta’awudz (a’udzubillaahi minasy syaithonirrojiim), the throne verse, an Naas surah, al falaq surah and other readings.

Get to Know God

Get to know God

There is a saying that says “do not know then no love”. So how can we love something while we don’t know it? Of course, it is impossible. Likewise, when hoping to love God, the first step we must do is know God. What is meant by knowing here is not just knowing, but by knowing that our hearts can feel secure when we are down, feel safe when overwritten by fear, hoping for forgiveness when making mistakes, fearing His torment if we sin, and so on.
Among the ways to know God is that we believe that God exists. If we look at this world, there are many kinds of creatures with various shapes, colors, and so on. We see the sun, moon, stars, planets, and others. Of course, there are all those who hold it, it is impossible for all of them to exist by themselves. Houses, tables, chairs, and cabinets exist because someone made them, namely carpenters. Likewise, with this universe, the earth, and its contents, someone must have made it. Who is that?

The existence of something does not require the appearance of something. We know that God is not visible, but that does not mean that God does not exist. We are sure that the wind is there, but we cannot see what the wind is like, what color it is, what it looks like, certainly the wind is there. We can feel hot or cold, but the form of heat or cold we do not know, what color we also do not know, certainly there are hot and cold. When we have a headache we feel dizzy, but if we are asked what the dizziness’s form or color is, of course, we can’t explain, there is definitely a headache and we can feel it. Likewise, with God, we cannot see it but we are sure of His existence with signs of His existence.

We can see that the sun and moon appear to move in a regular manner, never colliding. Can they move on their own or is there someone who move them? The coconut fruit, initially in the form of a flower, then becomes a small coconut, then it grows bigger, inside there is the flesh and there is water. If we divide the coconut tree we don’t find coconut or coconut flowers, but suddenly coconut fruit can appear, does it happen by itself or is there someone who set it? If we eat bread, we put the bread in our mouths, we swallow, then the bread enters the stomach and so on until it becomes energy for our body, does the incident happen on its own or is there something to regulate it? And there are still many events in this world, from our own bodies to the universe, we can see everything is going well. Of course, there is something that governs it, namely God.

God has explained to us in many verses about His existence, including:
1. Meaning: He Who created you from the ground, and then your death is determined, and there is another death that is determined (to resurrect) which is on His side (which He himself knows), then you are still in doubt ( about generating it). (Al-An’am: 2)
2. Meaning: Surely We have created you (Adam), then We form your body (Al-A’rof: 11)
3. Meaning: Are they created without anything or do they create (themselves)? Or have they created the heavens and the earth? actually, they don’t believe (what they say). Or is there a treasury on their side of your Lord or are they in power? (Ath-Thuur: 35-37)

And there are many more verses that explain the signs of God’s existence. Then, are we among those who believe?