Ways to Fight Arrogant

Ways to Fight Arrogant

Arrogant is a very dangerous disease. This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it. In a hadith, the Prophet Muhammad said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it was as big as dzarrah. Then there was someone who said that there are actually people who like to wear good clothes or good sandals. So the Prophet Muhammad said that Allah is Most Beautiful and likes beauty. Arrogant rejects the truth and humiliates humans. So the essence of arrogance is that when someone does not accept the truth that is conveyed to him and he demeans others, he feels better than others.

There are many ways to fight this arrogant, including:
1. All the strengths we have must be grateful for.
God has given us so much pleasure, if we want to calculate it we will not be able to. Among the blessings that Allah has given us are many possessions, good descendants, extensive knowledge and understanding, many skills, complete limbs and much more. When we see other people who are poorer than us, or there are people who lack intelligence, or there are people who have other disadvantages, this should make us grateful, it turns out we have certain advantages compared to others.
2. We must be aware that people like us are many, even more than us are very many.
When we feel smart in one science, then try to pay attention in other regions or other countries, it turns out we will find people who are smarter than us, maybe even more than one person. So we don’t need to feel arrogant with the knowledge we have. When we give charity to help build mosques in our village, we may nominally be the biggest alms among people who participate in charity. But let’s look at other areas, maybe there are people who are more alms than our charity. So do we deserve to be arrogant? We buy a new car. Then arrogance begins to appear in our hearts when we saw our neighbor’s old car. But if we notice that in other areas there are also people who have cars like the one we buy, even the cars are better than oursLikewise, with other things, many people have advantages over us, and we have to admit it.
3. Always remember that the reward for arrogant people is to be put into hell.
God threatens those who are proud of hell: “Enter the gates of Hell, while you dwell therein. Then Jahannam is the worst place for those who boast. “(Az-Zumar: 72)
So when arrogant begins to appear in us, remember the threat of God to those who are arrogant, that is, they will be put into the hell.

That’s among the arrogant fighting methods, hopefully useful. And we pray to God so that we are kept away from this arrogant.

Arrogant

Arrogant

Arrogant is one of dangerous heart disease. This disease afflicted the devil so that the devil did not want to bow down to Adam. This disease also afflicted Abu Jahal and Abu Lahab so they refused to accept the invitation of the Prophet Muhammad to convert to Islam. When God commanded the angels and the devil to prostrate to Adam, the devil refused and was arrogant. Devil did not want to bow down on the grounds that the devil felt better than Adam, the devil was created from the fire while Adam was created from the ground. Though there was no statement from God that fire is better than the ground.

Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam reminded us of the dangers of the arrogant disease. He said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it is as big as “dzarrah”. Dzarrah is a very small object. Among the explanations regarding dzarrah are small ants, mustard seeds, small dust that appears when there is light entering the room. So if there is little arrogant in our hearts, then we are threatened not to go to heaven. This arrogant disease is so dangerous that those who have arrogant diseases God will enter him into Jahannam (hell).

This arrogance can be caused by world affairs or religious affairs. People can be arrogant because of their wealth, or because of the position they have, or because of the clothes they wear, or because of their descent, or something else. For example, when we go to the mosque by car, at first there is no sense of arrogance in our hearts, then when we arrive at the mosque and we become the center of attention of the pilgrims, we begin to grow arrogant in our hearts. Or when we go to the mosque wearing good clothes, at first we don’t feel arrogant, but because we are the center of attention, this arrogant disease finally arises. So this arrogant disease is very easy to appear on us, especially when we become the center of attention of many people. The Prophet Muhammad advised us that if we are able to dress luxuriously but we prefer to dress modestly then in heaven we will be given good clothes by Allah.

This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it, and there are many facilities leading to arrogance. Besides, because the world affairs as explained before, arrogant can also arise because of religious affairs. When we have memorized al Quran a lot, arrogance begins to appear in our hearts because seeing other people memorize it a little. With the knowledge of religion that we take and for more people to ask us about religion, arrogant arises in our hearts. If arrogant already understand us then we start doing what we say or what we do is really true. There are other people who advise us not to accept. This arrogant can be seen from our words, from the way we walk and others. Allah said which means: “And do not turn your face away from humans (because of arrogance) and do not walk on the earth arrogantly. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are arrogant and pride themselves. (Q. Luqman: 18)
The Prophet Muhammad said when he explained about arrogant, arrogant is rejecting the truth and demeaning humans. Hopefully, we will avoid this arrogant disease.

Thinking Bad For Something

Thinking Bad For Something

There is an assumption in my area that if there is a small child who is often sick, one of the reason is that he is not strong with the name given by his parents. So the solution is to replace the child’s name with another name. This belief still exists in some communities until now. Maybe this is one thing that is strange and does not make sense to us, but that’s how some people believe.

The belief of some other people is that they will not leave on certain days because they assume that if they leave that day, bad luck will be overwritten. There is a confidence in some people that they may not hold weddings on certain days or in certain months because if they hold an event on a certain day or month it will have a bad effect.
In Islam, assuming bad luck because something is called “tathoyyur”, comes from the word “thoirun” which means bird. Arabs before Islam came to have one belief, that is if they would travel they first saw a bird or released a bird, if the bird moved to the right they would travel but if the bird moved to the left they would not leave. They assume that if the bird moves to the right it will bring good luck while if the bird moves to the left it will bring bad luck. “Tathoyyur” is not only for birds but for everything. Everything that is considered bad luck is called “tathoyyur”.

In modern life, as it is now, the unlucky assumption is still there. For example, some people consider the bad number of 13. We can see in the multi-story building there is no name for the 13th floor, there are no rooms number 13 in the hotel, in the airplanes, there are no seats in number 13 and so on, because they assume that the number 13 carries damn it.

Allah ta’ala says which means, “Know, their misfortune is truly a decree from Allah, but most of them do not know.” (Surah Al Araaf [7]: 131)
From this verse, we know that the misfortune that befell humanity is God’s decree, something that is destined by God will befall humans.

Allah ta’ala also said which means, “Your misfortune is because of you alone. If you are warned (you are unlucky)? Actually, you are people who exceed the limits. “(QS. Yaasiin [36]: 19)
From this verse we know that the misfortune that befalls us is because of our own actions, because of our own beliefs, most of us are people who transgress.

From ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud, he mentioned the hadith marfu’ – to the Apostles Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam-, which means,” Assuming bad luck is shirk, assuming bad luck is shirk “. He called it three times. Then Ibn Masud said, “Nothing can eliminate the bad guess in his heart. But Allah is the one who removes the unfortunate presumption with resignation. “(Narrated by Abu Daud no. 3910 and Ibn Majah no. 3538. Shaykh Al Albani said that this hadith is saheeh).

This hadith clearly states that “tathoyyur” includes shirk. This unfortunate presumption reduces one’s monotheism. It can even be big shirk if you believe that creatures can bring benefits or disaster for us. So it is fitting for those of us who profess faith to stay away from bad luck in birds, numbers, days or anything else.

My Child Was Born Prematurely

My Child Was Born Prematurely

The child is an investment in the hereafter, then the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam ordered us to multiple children. If we have many godly children, there are certainly many who will pray for us. But children also become a test for parents. How many parents are willing to sacrifice anything for their children, parents sacrifice their wealth, time, energy and everything so that their children are happy. Even there are parents who justify any means for the happiness of their children.

My first child was born prematurely through a cesarean section. This operation was performed after the condition of the baby in the womb has deteriorated. When my wife entered the hospital the baby’s heart rate was very fast, after a few days her heart rate weakened, even below normal. Then the cesarean section was a solution so that the baby was more easily monitored by her health than still in the womb. The womb age of my wife during a cesarean section was only seven months. The baby’s weight was 19 ounces. The baby was very small, so my wife and I were very worried about her condition. Because the baby’s weight was below normal, she was placed in an incubator. Initially the baby was not able to drink breast milk, after all, my wife’s breast milk was not smooth, so at first, the baby was given formula milk. Three days after birth, my wife was allowed to go home, but the baby was still being treated in an incubator. We were sad that we could not accompany the baby all the time. We could only visit our baby at certain times. We stayed at my aunt’s house because my aunt’s house was close to the hospital, so we could visit our baby at any time in the hospital. Our baby was treated in an incubator at the hospital for seven days. After seven days of treatment, our baby may be taken home provided that our baby was made an incubator at home. Then I asked my neighbor who was a carpenter to make a simple incubator, the important thing could be used to warm my baby.

After being treated for seven days in the hospital, our baby may be taken home. At first, we asked for help from the midwife to bathe our baby, after I felt my wife could do it herself, she bathed our baby. Every morning we were required to warm our babies in the sun. All my baby clothes were removed so that her whole body could be exposed to the sun. The doctor said so that our baby would not get jaundice. We were very lucky because our house was close to the midwife, so she could help us if needed.

Oh yes, when my baby was born my parents were performing the Hajj. We deliberately did not inform them not to disturb their concentration in carrying out the Hajj. We made a surprise for my parents. And when they came home from the Hajj, we welcomed them and told them that our baby was born. They were surprised and happy to see our baby. But there was also a little worry because our baby was very small.

Our advice to you who also have a premature baby, monitor the condition of your baby diligently, because premature babies sometimes have a condition that is lacking. For example our baby, it turns out there is a slight problem with her hearing. We only found out when our baby had grown up. So pay attention to your child’s condition well. Hopefully, our family is always healthy. Amen.

When I Got Married

When I Got Married

Getting married is a means to legalize the relationship between a man and a woman. A man is forbidden from having a relationship with a woman who is not a mahram without a clear reason. In one verse, Allah forbids us from approaching adultery, because adultery is a very bad act. Approaching adultery alone should not let alone commit adultery, certainly more prohibited. The Prophet Muhammad also reminded us of approaching this adultery. He forbade a man to be alone with a woman who is not a mahram because surely Satan will tempt to do things that are forbidden. By marrying a man and woman’s relationship becomes lawful. After marriage men and women become mahram, they are free together everywhere, except to places that are forbidden, of course.

As I told you before, I got married on Sunday 12 April. Within a month or so of the first time I met the girl, I decided to marry her. Without dating and not much communication, let alone meet her. From the first acquaintance to before marriage I only met the girl twice, those were when I was acquainted and when I applied. I got married at the girl’s parents’ new home, a house that had just been built, a house that had never been occupied before. The wedding program was very simple. I went to the wedding venue with my family group on Sunday morning from home. There were my parents, my sisters and other families. The distance between my parents ‘house and the girl’s parents’ house was about 100 km. There was an event that was not heartening when traveling. I chose the wrong road, got into a dead end, was forced to turn back to the original road. Understandably, I haven’t memorized the way to the girl’s house. Finally, I arrived at the girl’s parents’ new home. A small, simple house, so it cannot accommodate a large number of guests present. The solemnization of marriage (ijab kabul) went smoothly, thank God. It was at the time of the blessing that I really saw what the girl was like, beautiful, masyaaAllah.

Sunday, April 12, at around 10 am, I officially became a husband. The dowry was a book, as the request of the girl. Alhamdulillah. The program was over, my family’s group had returned home, but many guests were still present until late in the afternoon. After delivering my family’s entourage, I returned to my new family. It felt strange, awkward, confused. Because only a few people I knew. Even with my own wife. The foreign woman who is now my wife. The moment of the first night I was still awkward, sleeping with her. I couldn’t sleep until morning. Then what did I do with my wife? We just chat, got to know each other. That was all. Really didn’t know what to do.
How about your first night?

When I Wanted To Marry

When I Wanted To Marry

Married is one of the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam. For young people who have been able to get married, the Prophet Muhammad was ordered to get married soon. Likewise for parents who have a daughter, if there is someone who has a good religion who wants to marry his daughter then it is advisable to accept the proposal.
Then what about me? I had a desire to get married at the age of 25 years. Qodarullah my wish is not achieved. Because my condition was not established at that time, so my parents did not give my blessing. Finally, I decided I would not discuss marriage until I was really ready. If someone offered me a woman to marry then I refused.

One day I worked in one city. A few months working there I was convicted of gallstone disease, the doctor advised me to take the gallstones surgery. After undergoing surgery I rested at home for a while to recover from the condition. On that occasion, it crossed my mind to get married. While the time was still loose during the recovery period and has not returned to work. If I have returned to work later, I would be busy with work again.

I conveyed my desire to get married to my friend. I said if I want to get married, I asked him for help if there is an acquaintance of a woman whom I have never known before and matches with me so I would marry her. I didn’t want to if I have known the woman before. I also conveyed this to my other friends. Then there were some friends began to offer me women who were ready for marriage. A friend offered me a widow with a child, I didn’t want to, because I wanted a girl. There are also those who offer me women older than me, I also didn’t want to, I wanted women who are younger than me. There was another who offered me a woman whose house was far away, across the island. I didn’t want to, I felt sorry for my parents if they have a distant daughter-in-law. Then my first friend gave me the biodata of a girl, incidentally, at that time, I played at my friend’s house. I read the girl’s biodata, it was very interesting, but when I arrived at the latest writing about her activities, I backed away. I did not want to marry an activist woman, because I was worried that with her busy life it will reduce family time. The criterion of the woman I wanted was a girl, younger than me, her house was not too far from my parents’ house, not richer than me, and of course a godly woman. Then which woman did I marry?

Get to know Genie

Get to know Genie

In this life, we often hear about the genie. About genie’s existence, there are people who believe that genie exists, there are also people who don’t believe it. Believers believe in genie’s existence. Even people who believe genie’s existence some of them cult genie or worships genie. Then, how does Islam look at genie’s existence?

Allah says in one of the verses, which means: “And We have created a genie before (Adam) from a very hot fire.” (Al Hijr 27). And also His word which means “And We have created the genie from the flame.” (Ar Rahman 15)
In the Qur’an it is narrated that Prophet Sulayman had enormous power, his people were from genies and humans. When he wanted to move the queen’s throne Bilqis there was a genie who was willing. But the prophet Sulayman preferred the godly man because the ability of the genie was still inferior to the abilities of the godly man.

In a hadith narrated when Abu Hurairah was in charge of guarding the food warehouse, there was a thief who took food. The thief was captured by Abu Hurairah. But was released again by Abu Hurairah because he was sorry for the thief. The incident repeated up to 3 times. On the third occasion, Abu Hurairah did not release him. But finally released also after the thief taught Abu Hurairah a very useful practice. When this incident was told to the prophet Muhammad, he said that the thief was actually a genie.

In everyday life, we often hear stories about people who met a genie. Genie lives in a different world from humans. One of their advantages is that they can see humans, but humans cannot see genies, only certain people can see genie. Most genies have the ability to change their form and appear in front of humans. Sometimes we hear about the appearance of a genie who is like a giant, there are certain susceptible animals and so on. This genie is also like a human, there is life there is death, there are anger and hostility, there is a call for prosperity and evil, and so on. They also eat, drink, get married, have children, have fears like humans.

The similarity of genie and humans is all that God created that was created to worship Him. Speaking the word of God which means: ” And not we create genie and humans except only worship Me “. (Adz Dzariyat: 56)
Genies will enter heaven if they believe in Allah and His Messenger, and they will go to hell if they do not believe. While the evil genies, they will invite humans for evil, interfere good humans by entering into the human body so that humans become crazy or sick, or by scaring humans. For this, the Prophet Muhammad has asked us to read readings for fortification from monitoring Genie, such as ta’awudz (a’udzubillaahi minasy syaithonirrojiim), the throne verse, an Naas surah, al falaq surah and other readings.

Ain, The Evil Of Eye

Ain, The Evil Of Eye

The human eye is the organ through which we can see. We use our eyes in almost everything we do. Sight is the most precious of our five sense – sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch. The eyesight is the mode of perception they value (and fear to lose) most.

Despite this, many people don’t have a good understanding of the bad effect of bad sight. How can? In Moslem religion, it’s called ‘ain or the evil of eye. It can occur when people amazed about someone or something and they forget to say “maasyaaAllaah” (if Allah wills). It can occur with direct views, photos or videos.

Believe or not it occur around me. It happened to my children. When they grow well and look healthy, we praise them, but we forgot to say “maasyaaAllaah or tabaarokallaah” sometime later they become sick, fever and won’t eat. Their body becomes thin and we aware that it could happen when we forgot to praise God with his pleasure to our children.
The evil of eye, it’s called ‘ain in Islam, is a disease in body or soul that caused by good sight or bad sight, that used by Satan and can be dangerous to people or something. It doesn’t make sense or hard to accept the reason. But the prophet Muhammad shallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “the bad eye (‘ain) is real, if something can overtake a fate, ‘ain can do it”.

How the bad eye can happen by photos and videos?
Photos of baby or kids or ourselves that we posted on social media, it can the cause of ‘ain. For example, we posted our cute baby, the baby can become sick or cry for no apparent reason. Even when we take them to a doctor and no disease in it. That can happen even though we don’t mean good or bad by looking at the photo or video. That’s the way I call the ‘ain is the evil of eye. Because it happens although we do not intend to endanger.

It is just a simple example we found in our world. Sometimes it can be an accident and a death. So, be careful with your sight, though it means good sight or a bad sight. Don’t forget to praise God. Say: “maasyaaAllaah”.

Get to Know God

Get to know God

There is a saying that says “do not know then no love”. So how can we love something while we don’t know it? Of course, it is impossible. Likewise, when hoping to love God, the first step we must do is know God. What is meant by knowing here is not just knowing, but by knowing that our hearts can feel secure when we are down, feel safe when overwritten by fear, hoping for forgiveness when making mistakes, fearing His torment if we sin, and so on.
Among the ways to know God is that we believe that God exists. If we look at this world, there are many kinds of creatures with various shapes, colors, and so on. We see the sun, moon, stars, planets, and others. Of course, there are all those who hold it, it is impossible for all of them to exist by themselves. Houses, tables, chairs, and cabinets exist because someone made them, namely carpenters. Likewise, with this universe, the earth, and its contents, someone must have made it. Who is that?

The existence of something does not require the appearance of something. We know that God is not visible, but that does not mean that God does not exist. We are sure that the wind is there, but we cannot see what the wind is like, what color it is, what it looks like, certainly the wind is there. We can feel hot or cold, but the form of heat or cold we do not know, what color we also do not know, certainly there are hot and cold. When we have a headache we feel dizzy, but if we are asked what the dizziness’s form or color is, of course, we can’t explain, there is definitely a headache and we can feel it. Likewise, with God, we cannot see it but we are sure of His existence with signs of His existence.

We can see that the sun and moon appear to move in a regular manner, never colliding. Can they move on their own or is there someone who move them? The coconut fruit, initially in the form of a flower, then becomes a small coconut, then it grows bigger, inside there is the flesh and there is water. If we divide the coconut tree we don’t find coconut or coconut flowers, but suddenly coconut fruit can appear, does it happen by itself or is there someone who set it? If we eat bread, we put the bread in our mouths, we swallow, then the bread enters the stomach and so on until it becomes energy for our body, does the incident happen on its own or is there something to regulate it? And there are still many events in this world, from our own bodies to the universe, we can see everything is going well. Of course, there is something that governs it, namely God.

God has explained to us in many verses about His existence, including:
1. Meaning: He Who created you from the ground, and then your death is determined, and there is another death that is determined (to resurrect) which is on His side (which He himself knows), then you are still in doubt ( about generating it). (Al-An’am: 2)
2. Meaning: Surely We have created you (Adam), then We form your body (Al-A’rof: 11)
3. Meaning: Are they created without anything or do they create (themselves)? Or have they created the heavens and the earth? actually, they don’t believe (what they say). Or is there a treasury on their side of your Lord or are they in power? (Ath-Thuur: 35-37)

And there are many more verses that explain the signs of God’s existence. Then, are we among those who believe?