Rules of Convenience for Drinking and Eating

Rules of Convenience for Drinking and Eating

Here are some Islamic rules of propriety that should be observed when eating or drinking.

– It is recommended to pronounce the Tasmiya [mention of the name of Allah] before drinking and eating [Bismillah]. According to the most plausible opinion, this is a Sunnah practice that falls to each individual. In the same way, it is recommended to praise Allâh when one finishes eating or drinking [Al-Hamdulillah].

– The washing of the hand before eating.

– When we eat or drink, we must use the right hand by recommendation. Among the other rules of propriety of the table to be observed, one must eat on one’s side when it is about a single dish which one shares with others outside the members of his family. But when it comes to several dishes or dates, you can eat anywhere at will, when the dish is away or eating a meal with the family. This is permissible in the latter case since he must observe decorum with strangers and not with his wife [and children], to whom it is rather to observe the propriety of her husband. We will take a new bite after finishing the previous one.

– After drinking, we pass the container to who is on the right.

– It is forbidden to drink or eat in gold or silver containers. This is based on the word of the Prophet who said, “He who eats or drinks in a vessel (vessel) of silver and gold does swallow the fire of Hell in his belly. ”

– It is good (after eating) to suck his hand before wiping it. Among the good manners in the food, it is necessary to make that the belly is intended for a third to the food, for a third to the drink and for a third to the breathing.

– One must not blow in the meal or the drink. This is reprehensible because it is a practice that has been banned, because it may leave something uncomfortable or uncomfortable for its guest. same.

– It is not appropriate for anyone who has eaten leek, garlic or raw onion to enter a mosque. It is not desirable to eat while sitting on a flank or eating from the center of the dish.

– One should avoid eating a very hot meal and breathing in the container while drinking, this is forbidden in the scriptural tradition. Indeed, the Imam Muslim reports that: “The Messenger of Allah has forbidden to breathe in the container”. It is permissible to drink all at once, but the Sunnah stipulates to drink three times.

– Among the rules of convenience in drinking and eating, it is also recommended to suck the water while drinking. Ibn al-Qayyim said, “Experience has shown that swallowing water all at once causes liver pain and lowers its temperature. ” It may also be advised not to drink all at once, because of the risk of nuisance to the intestines which are filled with water suddenly, this one causing a sudden pressure and badly distributed. It is also recommended to drink in a sitting position. But there is no harm in standing up. Whatever remains best to do sitting.

– One cleans the mouth after eating as well as one takes care of the teeth to clear the remains of food. We will rinse the mouth after the consumption of milk.

– We must not leave the table before it is cleared. Because it is reprehensible to get up before the table is cleared, otherwise it is to act contrary to what is best. Because it may push others to leave the meal out of modesty, while he is still hungry.

– One must respond favorably to the invitation to the wedding dinner, by going there, if there is no obviously forbidden music or apparent sin. We are free during the wedding to eat or not. Imam Mâlik allowed refraining from answering the invitation if there is a large crowd present.

About Sleeping

About Sleeping

Three Companions [may Allah bless them] came one day to the wives of the Prophet ‏to question them about his private life by saying, “How did the Prophet live? As they recounted elements of his private life, one of them said, “As for me, I do not marry women” (Pretending to observe celibacy). The second said, “As for me, I pray and I do not sleep,” and the third said, “As for me, I fast and I do not eat . ”

Having read their words, the Prophet praised Allāh, praised Him, and said, “I know Allah better than you, I fear him more than you, but at night I pray and sleep, day, I fast and eat, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my tradition (Sunnah) is not mine.

Regarding sleep, since this is the subject that concerns us in this article, it is obvious that the human body needs it to relax. There is no point in wanting to deprive oneself of it all the time and claiming to get closer to Allah just by means of fatigue, especially if one is not used to it, the capacity or the exceptional gift. Too too much to pull on the rope, we risk just exhausted, without more benefit.

Great Masters such as Imam al-Ghazali and ‘Abd al-Qadir al-Jilani [may Allah be merciful to them] counseled the aspirants/disciples to sleep eight hours in twenty-four hours. On the other hand, for more efficiency, it may be wise to divide this time. Imam al-Ghazali said, “Know that night and a day are twenty-four hours. Do not sleep more than eight hours, because if you are sixty, that is enough to make you lose twenty, or one-third.

Recently, while advising people who have difficulty getting up for the Subh prayer, Sheykh Muhammad al-Yaqou’bi said, “Usually, you should not sleep continuously for more than 4 or 5 hours. So, if you go to bed (at 11 am maximum), then you should get up at 4 am without the help of anyone. If you sleep 7 or 8 hours in a row without getting up then there is something wrong with you. Sleep 3, 4, 5 hours, wake up, pray 2 rakaat and go to sleep again if you must, but do not sleep continuously. This should help you in the Subh prayer. If you wake up an hour or two before Subh, read Quran or do Dhikr, it will be considered as night worship, which is very profitable. ”

Ways to Fight Arrogant

Ways to Fight Arrogant

Arrogant is a very dangerous disease. This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it. In a hadith, the Prophet Muhammad said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it was as big as dzarrah. Then there was someone who said that there are actually people who like to wear good clothes or good sandals. So the Prophet Muhammad said that Allah is Most Beautiful and likes beauty. Arrogant rejects the truth and humiliates humans. So the essence of arrogance is that when someone does not accept the truth that is conveyed to him and he demeans others, he feels better than others.

There are many ways to fight this arrogant, including:
1. All the strengths we have must be grateful for.
God has given us so much pleasure, if we want to calculate it we will not be able to. Among the blessings that Allah has given us are many possessions, good descendants, extensive knowledge and understanding, many skills, complete limbs and much more. When we see other people who are poorer than us, or there are people who lack intelligence, or there are people who have other disadvantages, this should make us grateful, it turns out we have certain advantages compared to others.
2. We must be aware that people like us are many, even more than us are very many.
When we feel smart in one science, then try to pay attention in other regions or other countries, it turns out we will find people who are smarter than us, maybe even more than one person. So we don’t need to feel arrogant with the knowledge we have. When we give charity to help build mosques in our village, we may nominally be the biggest alms among people who participate in charity. But let’s look at other areas, maybe there are people who are more alms than our charity. So do we deserve to be arrogant? We buy a new car. Then arrogance begins to appear in our hearts when we saw our neighbor’s old car. But if we notice that in other areas there are also people who have cars like the one we buy, even the cars are better than oursLikewise, with other things, many people have advantages over us, and we have to admit it.
3. Always remember that the reward for arrogant people is to be put into hell.
God threatens those who are proud of hell: “Enter the gates of Hell, while you dwell therein. Then Jahannam is the worst place for those who boast. “(Az-Zumar: 72)
So when arrogant begins to appear in us, remember the threat of God to those who are arrogant, that is, they will be put into the hell.

That’s among the arrogant fighting methods, hopefully useful. And we pray to God so that we are kept away from this arrogant.

Arrogant

Arrogant

Arrogant is one of dangerous heart disease. This disease afflicted the devil so that the devil did not want to bow down to Adam. This disease also afflicted Abu Jahal and Abu Lahab so they refused to accept the invitation of the Prophet Muhammad to convert to Islam. When God commanded the angels and the devil to prostrate to Adam, the devil refused and was arrogant. Devil did not want to bow down on the grounds that the devil felt better than Adam, the devil was created from the fire while Adam was created from the ground. Though there was no statement from God that fire is better than the ground.

Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam reminded us of the dangers of the arrogant disease. He said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it is as big as “dzarrah”. Dzarrah is a very small object. Among the explanations regarding dzarrah are small ants, mustard seeds, small dust that appears when there is light entering the room. So if there is little arrogant in our hearts, then we are threatened not to go to heaven. This arrogant disease is so dangerous that those who have arrogant diseases God will enter him into Jahannam (hell).

This arrogance can be caused by world affairs or religious affairs. People can be arrogant because of their wealth, or because of the position they have, or because of the clothes they wear, or because of their descent, or something else. For example, when we go to the mosque by car, at first there is no sense of arrogance in our hearts, then when we arrive at the mosque and we become the center of attention of the pilgrims, we begin to grow arrogant in our hearts. Or when we go to the mosque wearing good clothes, at first we don’t feel arrogant, but because we are the center of attention, this arrogant disease finally arises. So this arrogant disease is very easy to appear on us, especially when we become the center of attention of many people. The Prophet Muhammad advised us that if we are able to dress luxuriously but we prefer to dress modestly then in heaven we will be given good clothes by Allah.

This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it, and there are many facilities leading to arrogance. Besides, because the world affairs as explained before, arrogant can also arise because of religious affairs. When we have memorized al Quran a lot, arrogance begins to appear in our hearts because seeing other people memorize it a little. With the knowledge of religion that we take and for more people to ask us about religion, arrogant arises in our hearts. If arrogant already understand us then we start doing what we say or what we do is really true. There are other people who advise us not to accept. This arrogant can be seen from our words, from the way we walk and others. Allah said which means: “And do not turn your face away from humans (because of arrogance) and do not walk on the earth arrogantly. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are arrogant and pride themselves. (Q. Luqman: 18)
The Prophet Muhammad said when he explained about arrogant, arrogant is rejecting the truth and demeaning humans. Hopefully, we will avoid this arrogant disease.

Between Revelations/Proposition And Intellect

Between Revelations/Proposition And Intellect

Islam is very concerned with human reason. In many verses Allah often ends His verse with a sentence, do you not know, do you not think, do you not contemplate, do you not take lessons and so on. So Islam invites us to always think and use our intellect to carry out Islamic law. But sometimes there is a Shari’a which seems unreasonable if this is the case then which one takes precedence?

There is a story in the Qur’an when Allah finished creating Adam, then Allah ordered the angels to prostrate to Adam, but the devil refused and was arrogant. When asked why the devil did not want to bow down, he replied because he felt better than Adam. He thinks he was better than Adam because he was created by God from fire while Adam was created by God from the land. Even though there was no explanation that fire is better than land. But the devil uses his intellect to fight God’s commands.

The next story is about Isra ‘and mi’raj prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam. A very famous story of how in one night the Prophet Muhammad traveled from the Holy Mosque in Mecca to the Aqsa Mosque in Palestine, then proceeded up to the seventh heaven to receive the revelation of prayer from Allah, then went down again and returned to Mecca. The incident lasted only one night. We will definitely say the incident was an impossible thing, it makes no sense. Abu Jahal, a high ranking official of the Quraish, when he heard this story laughed at the Prophet Muhammad because according to him the incident was impossible. Abu Jahal then told the Prophet Muhammad to tell the incident to the Quraysh community. Most of them said the incident did not make sense, even some Muslims said so. But when the incident was told to Abu Bakr, he then said, even if there was a more impossible event experienced by the Prophet Muhammad he would believe it. Such was the faith of Abu Bakr. He prioritizes Allah and the Prophet Muhammad rather than his intellect. So where is our position? Follow Abu Jahal or Abu Bakr?

Even in Islamic Sharia, there are some things that don’t make sense. For example, when we pray then fart, then our prayer is canceled. All we have to do is perform ablution. If we follow reason, of course, what should be washed is the part that emits wind, in fact, all members of ablutions that are washed. Another example, a woman who experiences menstruation when fasting for Ramadan, she has the obligation to change her fast at a later time. But it was not ordered to replace the prayer, even though the position of prayer was more important than fasting. But that is the Shari’a, the basis is revelation/proposition, not intellect. So as a Muslim when we are ruled by Allah and the Prophet Muhammad, what we do is we listen and we obey. There is no need to think about what are the benefits behind the order. Likewise, when we are prohibited from doing something, we stay away without our need to find out the danger from the prohibition.

Thinking Bad For Something

Thinking Bad For Something

There is an assumption in my area that if there is a small child who is often sick, one of the reason is that he is not strong with the name given by his parents. So the solution is to replace the child’s name with another name. This belief still exists in some communities until now. Maybe this is one thing that is strange and does not make sense to us, but that’s how some people believe.

The belief of some other people is that they will not leave on certain days because they assume that if they leave that day, bad luck will be overwritten. There is a confidence in some people that they may not hold weddings on certain days or in certain months because if they hold an event on a certain day or month it will have a bad effect.
In Islam, assuming bad luck because something is called “tathoyyur”, comes from the word “thoirun” which means bird. Arabs before Islam came to have one belief, that is if they would travel they first saw a bird or released a bird, if the bird moved to the right they would travel but if the bird moved to the left they would not leave. They assume that if the bird moves to the right it will bring good luck while if the bird moves to the left it will bring bad luck. “Tathoyyur” is not only for birds but for everything. Everything that is considered bad luck is called “tathoyyur”.

In modern life, as it is now, the unlucky assumption is still there. For example, some people consider the bad number of 13. We can see in the multi-story building there is no name for the 13th floor, there are no rooms number 13 in the hotel, in the airplanes, there are no seats in number 13 and so on, because they assume that the number 13 carries damn it.

Allah ta’ala says which means, “Know, their misfortune is truly a decree from Allah, but most of them do not know.” (Surah Al Araaf [7]: 131)
From this verse, we know that the misfortune that befell humanity is God’s decree, something that is destined by God will befall humans.

Allah ta’ala also said which means, “Your misfortune is because of you alone. If you are warned (you are unlucky)? Actually, you are people who exceed the limits. “(QS. Yaasiin [36]: 19)
From this verse we know that the misfortune that befalls us is because of our own actions, because of our own beliefs, most of us are people who transgress.

From ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud, he mentioned the hadith marfu’ – to the Apostles Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam-, which means,” Assuming bad luck is shirk, assuming bad luck is shirk “. He called it three times. Then Ibn Masud said, “Nothing can eliminate the bad guess in his heart. But Allah is the one who removes the unfortunate presumption with resignation. “(Narrated by Abu Daud no. 3910 and Ibn Majah no. 3538. Shaykh Al Albani said that this hadith is saheeh).

This hadith clearly states that “tathoyyur” includes shirk. This unfortunate presumption reduces one’s monotheism. It can even be big shirk if you believe that creatures can bring benefits or disaster for us. So it is fitting for those of us who profess faith to stay away from bad luck in birds, numbers, days or anything else.

I Became A Father

I Became A Father

One of the purposes of marriage is to get offspring. How many people who are married really crave the presence of a child. There are those who after getting married the wife immediately gets pregnant, then the baby is born safely, there are also those who have been married for years but have not yet got offspring. Ironically there are those who are given the gift of children by the Almighty, but their children are thrown away, wasted or even killed. Even though children are our investment in the hereafter. In a hadith, the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said about deeds that would not break the reward even though we had died one of them was a godly child who prayed for us as his parents. Then it is truly a loss if we have children but the child is actually wasted or not educated to be a godly child.

I am one of the lucky ones because God has given me offspring, thank God. And really amazing, so fast God gave me a child. Before I married my wife was menstruating, right on the wedding day my wife was not menstruating. A month later it turned out that my wife was not menstruating. Then my wife took a pregnancy test, the result was that she was positively pregnant. Allah is the Greatest. So soon God gave me the trust of a child. Pregnancy was a very hard time for my wife. My wife and I undergo long-distance relationships because I worked in another city. I usually went home every two weeks. My wife lived a fairly hard life, pregnant and far away from me. We know the condition of pregnant women, especially in the early days of pregnancy, frequent vomiting, appetite and others. Even my wife’s condition lasted for months, until the time of birth. At that time the Hajj season arrived. My parents left for Hajj. My mother hoped to leave Hajj with the first group so that when my wife gave birth she could accompany her. Qodarullah, my wife gave birth faster than expected.

Wednesday afternoon I left for the city where I worked. Thursday afternoon I got news from my sister if my wife was hospitalized. So on Friday morning I went home and went straight to the hospital. I arrived at the hospital on Friday afternoon. I got a story from my wife that yesterday she was sick, high heat. Then he went to the midwife because the midwife was worried about the condition of the baby in the womb of my wife so the midwife suggested that my wife was taken to the hospital. After being hospitalized the opposite condition happened to my wife and baby in her womb. If my wife’s condition improves, in contrast to the baby in my wife’s stomach, the baby’s condition declined. Finally, the doctor advised my wife to have a cesarean operation to take the baby. Sunday morning was the day of the operation. I, my sisters and my aunt waited outside the operating room. A moment later a baby crying. We were still waiting outside worriedly. Sometime later the doctor came out of the operating room and told us if the baby was born. Allahu akbar, thank God. Wow, amazing. Then the doctor asked me to report to the registration section. Immediately I ran to the registration section, I was asked by officers, the baby boy or girl? I’m confused because I didn’t know my son or daughter. Apparently so happy and happy, I forgot to ask the doctor, my son or daughter. Various feelings were mixed in me, this was how it felt to be a father. Even though there was a little worry because my child was born at the age of the womb which was only 7 months old. Yes, only 7 months. My child was born prematurely, a baby girl weighing only 19 ounces, was very small compared to other babies in a special baby room.

Do you have experience with premature babies?

Get Married Without Love

Get Married Without Love

How can you get married without love?
Certainly can.
Our goal to get married is to obey Allah, maintain honor, follow the Sunnah of the Prophet, get the blessed offsprings.
Do you love your husband?
Of course, I love my husband … love based on love because of Allah insyaaAllah, and love because he loves me because Allah also … because he always tries to make me happy, accompany me, forgive me, obey my request, look after me and care for me when I’m sick, because he is the father of my children, he always makes me the best for him .. masyaa Allah … how much I love you, my husband. may Allah bless him.

When was the first time you fell in love with your husband?
The first time I fell in love with him was after our marriage. Maybe a little funny, at first I didn’t dare look at his face … even though he had become my husband. I still remember the beginning of our marriage, I did not memorize his face. I still did not dare to look at his face directly, I used to steal the sight of seeing him from a distance. I could only take 2 weeks off from school and had to go back to teach, so my husband had to go back to work outside the city. That time we used to date and get to know each other. Every two weeks he came home to see me. When he came home the first time, I was confused when I had to pick him up. I forgot his face … I finally opened the marriage certificate with a picture of him. So I was not wrong when I pick up my husband later.

One month of our marriage, I was late for menstruation. I tried a urine test, and it turns out that I was pregnant … confused, shocked, what should I do ?? How about this?? Just looked at my husband’s face I had not dared, let alone love him? Why was I pregnant? I still wanted to know him, fell in love with him, went out with him … I called him, I cried … I said that I was not ready to get pregnant … our marriage age was only for a while… I didn’t know you well … and he just answered: sorry … sorry … and sorry. Yeah, this was so funny … haha … just forget it. Isn’t the intention to marry to get offspring? Then why do I even cry when I know I’m pregnant ?? After I found out I was pregnant, I tried to vent myself to see his face. And when I first saw his face after returned from the mosque, somehow it felt strange, his face was like shining, his smile was really charming … my heart was beating fast … my face was hot, I was embarrassed … I immediately turned my face away … O Allah, whether was this name falling in love? He approached me, my heart beat faster. That was the first time I fell in love with my husband. Even now I still fall in love with him … I love You, my husband. May Allah keep our love, now and forever until to heaven. Amen

Genie’s Disorders And How To Protect From Her

Genie’s Disorders And How To Protect From Her

As explained in the previous article that genies exist and some of them can interfere with humans. Often we hear people’s stories, when passing through a place sounds strange sounds, such as the sound of a baby or a small child crying, but when searched for the source of the sound is not found, suddenly there is a noise or throwing objects, but when the source is searched there is nothing. There are also times when passing through a place there are strange apparitions that make people afraid because the shape is scary.

Among the human error in addressing this phenomenon is they then cult the genies of the watchmen of certain places. They gave offerings to the genie guarding the place in the hope that the genies would not disturb them. There are even humans who worship genies, slaughter animals to offer to genies, they hope these genies can bring benefits to them or keep the danger away from them. Whereas as Muslims, we know that only Allah has the power to turn people on and off, give a fortune, rain, keep us from danger and others.

Genie is like a human being, a creature created by Allah to worship Him alone, not associating Him with anything, according to the word of God which means, “And I did not create genie and humans except only to worship Me.” (Adz Dzariyat: 56)

The genie does not have the power to benefit or bring harm without the permission of God. So that humans do not need to be afraid of jinns, especially to worship them.

Then how do we take refuge from this genie?

The main thing is we always try to carry out the commands of Allah and His Messenger, stay away from what is forbidden by Allah and His Messenger, and immediately repent of all the mistakes we make. As the Word of the Prophet Muhammad means, “Keep Allah undoubtedly Allah will guard you, keep Allah undoubtedly He will be present before you.” (Narrated by Ahmad and Tirmidhi).
The meaning of hadith:
– Take care of God: Take care of God’s rules, carry out obligations and avoid being forbidden.
– He will be present before you: God will help you in every situation you need.

Next is that we read a lot of dhikrs, routinely reciting dhikr because God promises protection to those who read dhikr in the morning and evening, and read the Koran a lot because by reading the Qur’an the heart is always alive. Other readings that we are recommended to read often are throne verse, an Naas surah, and al falaq.
So little about the interference of the genie and how to take refuge from it, hopefully, it is useful.

Get to know Genie

Get to know Genie

In this life, we often hear about the genie. About genie’s existence, there are people who believe that genie exists, there are also people who don’t believe it. Believers believe in genie’s existence. Even people who believe genie’s existence some of them cult genie or worships genie. Then, how does Islam look at genie’s existence?

Allah says in one of the verses, which means: “And We have created a genie before (Adam) from a very hot fire.” (Al Hijr 27). And also His word which means “And We have created the genie from the flame.” (Ar Rahman 15)
In the Qur’an it is narrated that Prophet Sulayman had enormous power, his people were from genies and humans. When he wanted to move the queen’s throne Bilqis there was a genie who was willing. But the prophet Sulayman preferred the godly man because the ability of the genie was still inferior to the abilities of the godly man.

In a hadith narrated when Abu Hurairah was in charge of guarding the food warehouse, there was a thief who took food. The thief was captured by Abu Hurairah. But was released again by Abu Hurairah because he was sorry for the thief. The incident repeated up to 3 times. On the third occasion, Abu Hurairah did not release him. But finally released also after the thief taught Abu Hurairah a very useful practice. When this incident was told to the prophet Muhammad, he said that the thief was actually a genie.

In everyday life, we often hear stories about people who met a genie. Genie lives in a different world from humans. One of their advantages is that they can see humans, but humans cannot see genies, only certain people can see genie. Most genies have the ability to change their form and appear in front of humans. Sometimes we hear about the appearance of a genie who is like a giant, there are certain susceptible animals and so on. This genie is also like a human, there is life there is death, there are anger and hostility, there is a call for prosperity and evil, and so on. They also eat, drink, get married, have children, have fears like humans.

The similarity of genie and humans is all that God created that was created to worship Him. Speaking the word of God which means: ” And not we create genie and humans except only worship Me “. (Adz Dzariyat: 56)
Genies will enter heaven if they believe in Allah and His Messenger, and they will go to hell if they do not believe. While the evil genies, they will invite humans for evil, interfere good humans by entering into the human body so that humans become crazy or sick, or by scaring humans. For this, the Prophet Muhammad has asked us to read readings for fortification from monitoring Genie, such as ta’awudz (a’udzubillaahi minasy syaithonirrojiim), the throne verse, an Naas surah, al falaq surah and other readings.