Ways to Fight Arrogant

Ways to Fight Arrogant

Arrogant is a very dangerous disease. This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it. In a hadith, the Prophet Muhammad said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it was as big as dzarrah. Then there was someone who said that there are actually people who like to wear good clothes or good sandals. So the Prophet Muhammad said that Allah is Most Beautiful and likes beauty. Arrogant rejects the truth and humiliates humans. So the essence of arrogance is that when someone does not accept the truth that is conveyed to him and he demeans others, he feels better than others.

There are many ways to fight this arrogant, including:
1. All the strengths we have must be grateful for.
God has given us so much pleasure, if we want to calculate it we will not be able to. Among the blessings that Allah has given us are many possessions, good descendants, extensive knowledge and understanding, many skills, complete limbs and much more. When we see other people who are poorer than us, or there are people who lack intelligence, or there are people who have other disadvantages, this should make us grateful, it turns out we have certain advantages compared to others.
2. We must be aware that people like us are many, even more than us are very many.
When we feel smart in one science, then try to pay attention in other regions or other countries, it turns out we will find people who are smarter than us, maybe even more than one person. So we don’t need to feel arrogant with the knowledge we have. When we give charity to help build mosques in our village, we may nominally be the biggest alms among people who participate in charity. But let’s look at other areas, maybe there are people who are more alms than our charity. So do we deserve to be arrogant? We buy a new car. Then arrogance begins to appear in our hearts when we saw our neighbor’s old car. But if we notice that in other areas there are also people who have cars like the one we buy, even the cars are better than oursLikewise, with other things, many people have advantages over us, and we have to admit it.
3. Always remember that the reward for arrogant people is to be put into hell.
God threatens those who are proud of hell: “Enter the gates of Hell, while you dwell therein. Then Jahannam is the worst place for those who boast. “(Az-Zumar: 72)
So when arrogant begins to appear in us, remember the threat of God to those who are arrogant, that is, they will be put into the hell.

That’s among the arrogant fighting methods, hopefully useful. And we pray to God so that we are kept away from this arrogant.

Arrogant

Arrogant

Arrogant is one of dangerous heart disease. This disease afflicted the devil so that the devil did not want to bow down to Adam. This disease also afflicted Abu Jahal and Abu Lahab so they refused to accept the invitation of the Prophet Muhammad to convert to Islam. When God commanded the angels and the devil to prostrate to Adam, the devil refused and was arrogant. Devil did not want to bow down on the grounds that the devil felt better than Adam, the devil was created from the fire while Adam was created from the ground. Though there was no statement from God that fire is better than the ground.

Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam reminded us of the dangers of the arrogant disease. He said that would not enter heaven someone who in his heart had arrogant even though it is as big as “dzarrah”. Dzarrah is a very small object. Among the explanations regarding dzarrah are small ants, mustard seeds, small dust that appears when there is light entering the room. So if there is little arrogant in our hearts, then we are threatened not to go to heaven. This arrogant disease is so dangerous that those who have arrogant diseases God will enter him into Jahannam (hell).

This arrogance can be caused by world affairs or religious affairs. People can be arrogant because of their wealth, or because of the position they have, or because of the clothes they wear, or because of their descent, or something else. For example, when we go to the mosque by car, at first there is no sense of arrogance in our hearts, then when we arrive at the mosque and we become the center of attention of the pilgrims, we begin to grow arrogant in our hearts. Or when we go to the mosque wearing good clothes, at first we don’t feel arrogant, but because we are the center of attention, this arrogant disease finally arises. So this arrogant disease is very easy to appear on us, especially when we become the center of attention of many people. The Prophet Muhammad advised us that if we are able to dress luxuriously but we prefer to dress modestly then in heaven we will be given good clothes by Allah.

This arrogant often arises in us without us knowing it, and there are many facilities leading to arrogance. Besides, because the world affairs as explained before, arrogant can also arise because of religious affairs. When we have memorized al Quran a lot, arrogance begins to appear in our hearts because seeing other people memorize it a little. With the knowledge of religion that we take and for more people to ask us about religion, arrogant arises in our hearts. If arrogant already understand us then we start doing what we say or what we do is really true. There are other people who advise us not to accept. This arrogant can be seen from our words, from the way we walk and others. Allah said which means: “And do not turn your face away from humans (because of arrogance) and do not walk on the earth arrogantly. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are arrogant and pride themselves. (Q. Luqman: 18)
The Prophet Muhammad said when he explained about arrogant, arrogant is rejecting the truth and demeaning humans. Hopefully, we will avoid this arrogant disease.

Be Careful With Stomach Acid or Stomach Ulcers

Be Careful With Stomach Acid or Stomach Ulcers

In conditions of a hungry stomach, eating on the beach with grilled fish dishes do indeed feel very delicious. Hot coffee and hot tea also accompanied. The drizzle that went down did not reduce our pleasure in enjoying dinner. Unfriendly electricity because it died out too many times did not reduce the pleasure of our dinner. After finishing dinner we returned to the inn.

The next day my stomach began to have problems. The stomach feels very sore, twisted, nauseous, mixed into one. I tried to keep going to work. When my friends and I stopped by the restaurant for breakfast I couldn’t enjoy it. Finally, I was no longer able to resist this stomach nausea. The contents of the stomach all came out, but it still didn’t feel comfortable yet. I tried to eat the food, but my stomach refused, what I ate immediately came out again. In a weak body and a sore stomach, I forced myself to go to work. Because I was not strong, I stood presentation while sitting, sometimes lying down.

After the presentation, I was picked up by friends, I was immediately taken to the nearest hospital to get treatment immediately. The doctor gave me a stomach acid-lowering drug. But the stomach still did not want to receive food or drink. Every time I smelt food, my stomach got sick. Even this lasted for some time. The stomach felt very hard, the most comfortable sleeping position was just tilted to the right, besides that position, the stomach felt very tormented. Conditions like this occurred for several days, various attempts have been made to make the stomach feel comfortable again, ranging from seeing a doctor, massage to acupuncture.

From this experience, my advice for readers who have problems with stomach ulcers or stomach acid, do not eat spicy when the stomach is empty. Do not let your stomach keep hungry for a long time, immediately find food even if just a little to fill the stomach. Avoid foods that trigger for stomach ulcers or increase stomach acid, such as spicy foods, acids, sticky rice and so on. Let’s take care of our diet, so we avoid disease. We wish you, healthy readers, always.

Do You Have Problems With Stomach Acid Or Stomach Ulcers?

Do You Have Problems With Stomach Acid Or Stomach Ulcers?

The ulcer is one of the problems that occur with our stomach. In Wikipedia, an ulcer or gastric inflammation or gastric ulcer is a symptom of a disease that attacks the stomach due to an injury or inflammation of the stomach that causes blisters, heartburn, and pain in the stomach.

The cause of this disease is mostly because people eat irregularly. As happened to me, it started when I was in second-grade senior high school. After going home from school which coincided with lunchtime, I often came home late because I attended activities at school. And sometimes after school, I didn’t eat because the subscribed food stalls were closed. Finally, lunch mixed with dinner. Until one day my stomach began to have a problem, suffering from ulcer disease. I felt this disease for some time later, but then it didn’t recur for some time.

Until finally after a dozen years later the disease recurred. The fastest trigger was after I ate food from sticky rice. After eating foods that come from sticky rice, then a few minutes later the stomach started to feel sore, it feels up to about 2 hours. After that, the stomach started normally again. Since that incident I did not dare to eat food that came from sticky rice which was immediately cooked, but if processed foods from sticky rice, the effect was not as severe as if food from sticky rice was cooked directly.

One day I got an assignment from the office where I worked in a remote area far from the city with several other office friends. We would stay at the lodge later. On the day of departure, my stomach began to feel troubled, uncomfortable, signs of relapse again. Arriving at our destination, we had dinner at the beach, grilled fish with spicy sauce, delicious. We promised to come there again tomorrow night. The next day I was accompanied by an anchor driver working at 6 in the morning. We have not had breakfast, hoping to meet the restaurant later. It turned out that it was only 4 pm that we ate, but it didn’t suit our tastes and stomachs. But we ate the meal because we were very hungry, even if only a little.

After finishing our work, we immediately returned to the inn, because it was getting darker while we had an appointment to go back to the beach for dinner. Arriving at our inn immediately to the beach where we had dinner yesterday. As before we ordered grilled fish with chili sauce which was quite spicy. In a state of the hungry stomach, eating like that really feels very delicious. But what happened to my stomach?

(to be continued)

Thinking Bad For Something

Thinking Bad For Something

There is an assumption in my area that if there is a small child who is often sick, one of the reason is that he is not strong with the name given by his parents. So the solution is to replace the child’s name with another name. This belief still exists in some communities until now. Maybe this is one thing that is strange and does not make sense to us, but that’s how some people believe.

The belief of some other people is that they will not leave on certain days because they assume that if they leave that day, bad luck will be overwritten. There is a confidence in some people that they may not hold weddings on certain days or in certain months because if they hold an event on a certain day or month it will have a bad effect.
In Islam, assuming bad luck because something is called “tathoyyur”, comes from the word “thoirun” which means bird. Arabs before Islam came to have one belief, that is if they would travel they first saw a bird or released a bird, if the bird moved to the right they would travel but if the bird moved to the left they would not leave. They assume that if the bird moves to the right it will bring good luck while if the bird moves to the left it will bring bad luck. “Tathoyyur” is not only for birds but for everything. Everything that is considered bad luck is called “tathoyyur”.

In modern life, as it is now, the unlucky assumption is still there. For example, some people consider the bad number of 13. We can see in the multi-story building there is no name for the 13th floor, there are no rooms number 13 in the hotel, in the airplanes, there are no seats in number 13 and so on, because they assume that the number 13 carries damn it.

Allah ta’ala says which means, “Know, their misfortune is truly a decree from Allah, but most of them do not know.” (Surah Al Araaf [7]: 131)
From this verse, we know that the misfortune that befell humanity is God’s decree, something that is destined by God will befall humans.

Allah ta’ala also said which means, “Your misfortune is because of you alone. If you are warned (you are unlucky)? Actually, you are people who exceed the limits. “(QS. Yaasiin [36]: 19)
From this verse we know that the misfortune that befalls us is because of our own actions, because of our own beliefs, most of us are people who transgress.

From ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud, he mentioned the hadith marfu’ – to the Apostles Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam-, which means,” Assuming bad luck is shirk, assuming bad luck is shirk “. He called it three times. Then Ibn Masud said, “Nothing can eliminate the bad guess in his heart. But Allah is the one who removes the unfortunate presumption with resignation. “(Narrated by Abu Daud no. 3910 and Ibn Majah no. 3538. Shaykh Al Albani said that this hadith is saheeh).

This hadith clearly states that “tathoyyur” includes shirk. This unfortunate presumption reduces one’s monotheism. It can even be big shirk if you believe that creatures can bring benefits or disaster for us. So it is fitting for those of us who profess faith to stay away from bad luck in birds, numbers, days or anything else.

My Child Was Born Prematurely

My Child Was Born Prematurely

The child is an investment in the hereafter, then the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam ordered us to multiple children. If we have many godly children, there are certainly many who will pray for us. But children also become a test for parents. How many parents are willing to sacrifice anything for their children, parents sacrifice their wealth, time, energy and everything so that their children are happy. Even there are parents who justify any means for the happiness of their children.

My first child was born prematurely through a cesarean section. This operation was performed after the condition of the baby in the womb has deteriorated. When my wife entered the hospital the baby’s heart rate was very fast, after a few days her heart rate weakened, even below normal. Then the cesarean section was a solution so that the baby was more easily monitored by her health than still in the womb. The womb age of my wife during a cesarean section was only seven months. The baby’s weight was 19 ounces. The baby was very small, so my wife and I were very worried about her condition. Because the baby’s weight was below normal, she was placed in an incubator. Initially the baby was not able to drink breast milk, after all, my wife’s breast milk was not smooth, so at first, the baby was given formula milk. Three days after birth, my wife was allowed to go home, but the baby was still being treated in an incubator. We were sad that we could not accompany the baby all the time. We could only visit our baby at certain times. We stayed at my aunt’s house because my aunt’s house was close to the hospital, so we could visit our baby at any time in the hospital. Our baby was treated in an incubator at the hospital for seven days. After seven days of treatment, our baby may be taken home provided that our baby was made an incubator at home. Then I asked my neighbor who was a carpenter to make a simple incubator, the important thing could be used to warm my baby.

After being treated for seven days in the hospital, our baby may be taken home. At first, we asked for help from the midwife to bathe our baby, after I felt my wife could do it herself, she bathed our baby. Every morning we were required to warm our babies in the sun. All my baby clothes were removed so that her whole body could be exposed to the sun. The doctor said so that our baby would not get jaundice. We were very lucky because our house was close to the midwife, so she could help us if needed.

Oh yes, when my baby was born my parents were performing the Hajj. We deliberately did not inform them not to disturb their concentration in carrying out the Hajj. We made a surprise for my parents. And when they came home from the Hajj, we welcomed them and told them that our baby was born. They were surprised and happy to see our baby. But there was also a little worry because our baby was very small.

Our advice to you who also have a premature baby, monitor the condition of your baby diligently, because premature babies sometimes have a condition that is lacking. For example our baby, it turns out there is a slight problem with her hearing. We only found out when our baby had grown up. So pay attention to your child’s condition well. Hopefully, our family is always healthy. Amen.

I Became A Father

I Became A Father

One of the purposes of marriage is to get offspring. How many people who are married really crave the presence of a child. There are those who after getting married the wife immediately gets pregnant, then the baby is born safely, there are also those who have been married for years but have not yet got offspring. Ironically there are those who are given the gift of children by the Almighty, but their children are thrown away, wasted or even killed. Even though children are our investment in the hereafter. In a hadith, the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said about deeds that would not break the reward even though we had died one of them was a godly child who prayed for us as his parents. Then it is truly a loss if we have children but the child is actually wasted or not educated to be a godly child.

I am one of the lucky ones because God has given me offspring, thank God. And really amazing, so fast God gave me a child. Before I married my wife was menstruating, right on the wedding day my wife was not menstruating. A month later it turned out that my wife was not menstruating. Then my wife took a pregnancy test, the result was that she was positively pregnant. Allah is the Greatest. So soon God gave me the trust of a child. Pregnancy was a very hard time for my wife. My wife and I undergo long-distance relationships because I worked in another city. I usually went home every two weeks. My wife lived a fairly hard life, pregnant and far away from me. We know the condition of pregnant women, especially in the early days of pregnancy, frequent vomiting, appetite and others. Even my wife’s condition lasted for months, until the time of birth. At that time the Hajj season arrived. My parents left for Hajj. My mother hoped to leave Hajj with the first group so that when my wife gave birth she could accompany her. Qodarullah, my wife gave birth faster than expected.

Wednesday afternoon I left for the city where I worked. Thursday afternoon I got news from my sister if my wife was hospitalized. So on Friday morning I went home and went straight to the hospital. I arrived at the hospital on Friday afternoon. I got a story from my wife that yesterday she was sick, high heat. Then he went to the midwife because the midwife was worried about the condition of the baby in the womb of my wife so the midwife suggested that my wife was taken to the hospital. After being hospitalized the opposite condition happened to my wife and baby in her womb. If my wife’s condition improves, in contrast to the baby in my wife’s stomach, the baby’s condition declined. Finally, the doctor advised my wife to have a cesarean operation to take the baby. Sunday morning was the day of the operation. I, my sisters and my aunt waited outside the operating room. A moment later a baby crying. We were still waiting outside worriedly. Sometime later the doctor came out of the operating room and told us if the baby was born. Allahu akbar, thank God. Wow, amazing. Then the doctor asked me to report to the registration section. Immediately I ran to the registration section, I was asked by officers, the baby boy or girl? I’m confused because I didn’t know my son or daughter. Apparently so happy and happy, I forgot to ask the doctor, my son or daughter. Various feelings were mixed in me, this was how it felt to be a father. Even though there was a little worry because my child was born at the age of the womb which was only 7 months old. Yes, only 7 months. My child was born prematurely, a baby girl weighing only 19 ounces, was very small compared to other babies in a special baby room.

Do you have experience with premature babies?

When I Got Married

When I Got Married

Getting married is a means to legalize the relationship between a man and a woman. A man is forbidden from having a relationship with a woman who is not a mahram without a clear reason. In one verse, Allah forbids us from approaching adultery, because adultery is a very bad act. Approaching adultery alone should not let alone commit adultery, certainly more prohibited. The Prophet Muhammad also reminded us of approaching this adultery. He forbade a man to be alone with a woman who is not a mahram because surely Satan will tempt to do things that are forbidden. By marrying a man and woman’s relationship becomes lawful. After marriage men and women become mahram, they are free together everywhere, except to places that are forbidden, of course.

As I told you before, I got married on Sunday 12 April. Within a month or so of the first time I met the girl, I decided to marry her. Without dating and not much communication, let alone meet her. From the first acquaintance to before marriage I only met the girl twice, those were when I was acquainted and when I applied. I got married at the girl’s parents’ new home, a house that had just been built, a house that had never been occupied before. The wedding program was very simple. I went to the wedding venue with my family group on Sunday morning from home. There were my parents, my sisters and other families. The distance between my parents ‘house and the girl’s parents’ house was about 100 km. There was an event that was not heartening when traveling. I chose the wrong road, got into a dead end, was forced to turn back to the original road. Understandably, I haven’t memorized the way to the girl’s house. Finally, I arrived at the girl’s parents’ new home. A small, simple house, so it cannot accommodate a large number of guests present. The solemnization of marriage (ijab kabul) went smoothly, thank God. It was at the time of the blessing that I really saw what the girl was like, beautiful, masyaaAllah.

Sunday, April 12, at around 10 am, I officially became a husband. The dowry was a book, as the request of the girl. Alhamdulillah. The program was over, my family’s group had returned home, but many guests were still present until late in the afternoon. After delivering my family’s entourage, I returned to my new family. It felt strange, awkward, confused. Because only a few people I knew. Even with my own wife. The foreign woman who is now my wife. The moment of the first night I was still awkward, sleeping with her. I couldn’t sleep until morning. Then what did I do with my wife? We just chat, got to know each other. That was all. Really didn’t know what to do.
How about your first night?

Mate Is In The Hands Of Allah

Mate Is In The Hands Of Allah

Mate is the secret of the Almighty. No matter how strong our efforts get a mate, but if indeed it is not our share, it will not be ours. We just try, the results are surrendered to the Almighty. After March 9, I met the family of the girl and then told my parents what steps should be taken next. So my parents suggested that on March 15 I and my parents went to the girl’s house, submit an application, khitbah. Between those times I and the girl rarely communicated, only occasionally texting related to the next plan. Including my plans and my parents to make a proposal on March 15, I informed the girl.

According to the agreement dated March 15, my parents and my brother-in-law accompanied me to the girl’s house. But we were asked to go to his brother’s house only, the place was more spacious. The four of us left on motorcycles while enjoying the view of the mountains and the cool air of the mountains. Around 10 am we arrived there. We went straight to her brother’s house. There we were greeted by the girl, her parents, and family. On that day I could see what the girl was like, so that day was the second time I saw the girl, after the first one when I was acquainted. After introducing themselves to each other, then my father conveyed our intentions and purpose to come to the girl’s house. In essence, my father applied for the girl to be my wife. And … it turned out that our application was accepted, then at the same time my father asked when the date of the wedding. After the discussion was finally set April 12 as the date of my marriage with the girl. Wow, I would get married soon … I did not imagine before, the process of getting married was fast. Praise God. Walhamdulillaah, all praise is only God’s. He is the one who regulates everything. He is the Almighty over all things. Only to Him will we worship and only to Him will we ask for help.

Yes, I got married on April 12 with a girl I had not known before. We didn’t date before. After the proposal accepted we did not communicate except for preparations for marriage. So until my wedding day, I only saw what my prospective wife was like twice. How could that be? Married to an unknown person, not dating, meeting only twice. I don’t know, all because of the will of the Almighty. I just hope that this girl is my soul mate, can jointly build a household, have a godly offspring, and be able to go to heaven with family. Amen …

Did I Found My Girl?

Did I Found My Girl?

Even though I refused the offer given by my friends, they still tried to find a wife for me. Then a friend asked for the address of my parents’ house, he wanted to send a girl’s biodata through the post office. I gave the address of my parents’ house via SMS. Usually, my friend if he offered a girl will give the girl’s first news via SMS, this even immediately asked for a home address without giving information about the girl. Then the girl’s biodata was sent to my home address. The first day and the second day the letter hasn’t arrived. The third day the letter hasn’t arrived yet. My friend every day asked if the letter has arrived. Understandably my parents lived in the village, so it took days to send mail to the home address. The sixth day of the letter hasn’t arrived yet. My friend was also still diligently asking for his letter. I said if the letter hasn’t arrived today then tomorrow I would look for the letter at the nearest post office. It turned out that the letter arrived at my home in the afternoon. Then I read the letter containing the biodata of a girl. Wow, this was interesting. I then sent an SMS message to my friend if I was interested in this girl. So the time and place were arranged so that I could meet with the girl.

The time and place have been determined by my friend so that I could meet and acquaintance (ta’aruf) with the girl. I still remember the day and date. Sunday, March 1 afternoon. So that day I went to the agreed place, the house which was rented by my friend. Don’t imagine if we met face to face, sat close together and talked together, no, I was accompanied by my friend, while the girl was accompanied by my friend’s wife, and even then we talked behind the hijab. My friend started the conversation and explained the purpose of the meeting there. After that I was given the opportunity to talk with the girl together, we asked each other to get to know each other more, but I just glanced at her, I was embarrassed to see her. Even though it should be my chance to know more about her. From that meeting, I began to be strong to get to know her further. The following week I planned to visit her home, meet with her family.

On March 8, my friends and community had activities somewhere, traveling on motorcycles. Then stay at the house of one of my friends’ houses. On March 9 we returned home, but on my trip, I separated myself from the group. I invited one of my friends who was a pillion to accompany me. When I arrived at a gas station I told my friend: wear neat clothes, huh? My friend didn’t understand what I meant but he just followed my request. After that, I went to the house of the older brother of the girl, because I was asked to come to the house of her brother. Arriving at her brother’s house I met the older brother of the girl. My friend I invited just understood what I really wanted. I met the brother of the girl, conversing many things. Then I was invited to the home of the girl’s parents. A very simple house containing a simple family, only one plot with a size of no more than 8 x 6 meters. I became acquainted with the girl’s parents, conversing many things. I was increasingly interested in this family. But I did not meet with the girl. She said she was sick, so she could not see me. Then what is my next story? Did I finally marry the girl?